There is a long list of dos and don’ts you should abide by as a wedding guest, from the moment the invitation arrives in the mail until after the happy event has taken place. Follow these tips
Always return RSVPs
Most guests fail to send RSVPs in a timely manner. Within a couple of weeks, send it back, even if the deadline is far off. It’s just good manners, and it’s essential to determining how much the wedding will cost. There is so much expense when planning, and most of that expense is dictated by the numbers on the guest list
Don’t just show up for the reception
According to www.huffingtonpost.com, the ceremony is the most important part of the wedding; so, guests should make an effort to attend. It’s in poor taste to show up to the open bar without first attending the main event.
Dress as the style of the invitation suggests
If you’re unsure of the dress code, ask someone familiar with the wedding details, perhaps a bridesmaid or a member of the bride’s family, but not the bride herself. She has her own dress to worry about.
Arrive at the ceremony on time
Leave plenty of time to get to the wedding itself. If you must be late, there’s protocol for that, too. Don’t think, ‘I’ll slip in while the bride is coming up the aisle.’ If you’re really late, stand at the back or slip quietly into a back pew or row once the processional hymn is completely finished.
Send a gift, even if you can’t attend
Etiquette dictates that if you were invited, you owe the couple a gift, even if you can’t make it to the wedding. There are several gifts to choose from. You can shop from the couple’s gift registry.
Sit at your assigned table
There’s a lot of thought that goes into these sitting arrangements, Yes, the bride and groom actually spent time thinking about the various relationships their guests have with one another, and there could be a very good reason the cute guy you want to sit next to is at the other end of the room. Maybe his ex-girlfriend will cause a scene and take you out for flirting with him. Who knows? Only the bride and groom; so, don’t mess with the sitting arrangement.
If you weren’t invited with a guest, don’t show up with one
Do not pencil your significant other’s name onto the RSVP card, and do not call and ask the bride for an extra invite. Once the bride and groom have come to their decision, it is what it is. Asking them to change it is disrespectful, and it puts them in an awkward position. The only exceptions are if you’re married, engaged or cohabitating.
Yes, the ‘no-bringing uninvited-guests’ rule includes your kids
People think, ‘Oh, this wedding would be a great chance for everyone to meet my new baby! Or to see my kids!’ No, just don’t bring an uninvited child. The couple may not have the space and the budget, or they may just prefer not to have children present; they are allowed to have an adults-only wedding.
Don’t dress to compete
Even if you worked out to look better than you ever have before, and are dying to show off your beach-ready body, a wedding is not the time. If your personal style is too revealing, tone it down. In addition, don’t wear white.
Don’t be disrespectful of the couple’s religious or cultural traditions
That might mean covering your shoulders in church or temple, or being quiet during a ritual you don’t quite understand. When those things are going on, be quiet and pay attention.
Don’t share wedding photos — yet
While the barrages of day-after wedding photo postings are inevitable, some brides are very sensitive about their images. It’s best to wait until either the bride or the groom has publicly posted pictures before you post your own.
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